Connect the Dots

Craigslist. The website alone provides me with endless hours of sheer entertainment. I have found so many amazing treasures on that website. From the used 7 1/2 ft. white Christmas tree, to the vintage Lucite mirrored bar cart, to the underprivileged 14-year old autistic girl that we made Halloween happen for her and her family one year, the vintage bowling ball and bowling ball bag that I gave Goose for his birthday, the apartment that I currently live in and so many other great finds.

Craigslist offers something for every person. It seriously does. From one man's trash being another man's treasure, to people asking for rides to and from wherever they are trying to go, to my all-time, personal favorite --- the personals.

Craigslist Personals - MFM, MFW, WFM, MMFW, WFW,(etc...) strictly platonic, miscellaneous and the best category of ALL time, the elusive...Missed Connections.

Missed connections are those missed opportunities in life where you thought you may have had a connection with someone out in a public place, but neither of you acted on it and you have kicked yourself in the ass so many times to the point where you decide to post on Craigslist and declare that you actually wished you had exchanged numbers with that person or even said more than hello, or winked or anything.

You post something ridiculous like: "I saw you at 'x' place. You were wearing 'y' colored shirt and had 'z' colored hair and a tattoo on your wrist. What was I wearing? Tell me something about you or me that ensures you are who I locked eyes with. I thought we had a connection after I saw you at 'abc' place."

I try so hard to have a missed connection. I wink, nod, smile, and twitch just to get a cute guy's attention when I am out in public. And then race home and check missed connections to see if anyone "missed" our connection. Alas, none. And I travel a lot for work, so I am constantly checking all of the cities and counties that I visit to see if they happen there.

But the BTL is that they don't ever come to fruition, but they do provide me with hours, upon hours of bliss and entertainment. It brings me joy to know that others out there are looking for the person that they thought they may have connected with. And some of them may actually connect. I wonder if any of them actually end up meeting up. They may, or they may not.

I should actually just start acting on mine. But it can be difficult being a gay man and not knowing if the person you are eye fucking actually wants anything from you. I guess that you will never know until you reach out and go for it.

Next time that you think that you may have missed someones subtle - or not so - signals that they were dropping for you and neither of you approached the other, check out Craigslist Missed Connections in the city nearest you. Maybe it's there. You never know if they might be your future Mr. (or Mrs.)